If you are experiencing low sex drive, I know it can be frustrating - perhaps you feel that everything is great in your relationship, you love your partner, you have romantic date nights and adventures, you feel passion in your life, and yet, your body is just not feeling it. In relationships we tend to take a low sex drive personally and blame lack of time, kids, stress, and all of this might be true for you, but fundamentally low sex drive is a hormonal issue. Your body is primed to have a peak of sex drive around ovulation and again before your period. If this sounds really foreign to you, then you are probably dealing with a hormonal imbalance.
Poor nutrition is definitely a source of hormonal imbalance, but there are other surprising lifestyle choices that can squash your sex drive that you may have never even considered could have an impact. And these are things you might be doing every week, even every day!
3 reasons for your low sex drive
- Sitting all day - if you have an office or desk job and find yourself sitting for some 8 hours a day, at least, this can be causing your low sex drive. Sitting compresses your entire pelvic area and prevents proper blood flow. Micronutrients and hormones are prevented from circulating where they’re needed. Your lady parts just aren’t getting what they need to function at an optimal level. Incorporating movement into your daily routine that will open up your pelvic area and that increased blood flow will help you to feel aroused and give you better orgasms. Stretch, stand up, rotate your body, climb the stairs and schedule walking meetings to move as much as you can during the working day.
- Too much technology - Using technology (laptop, tablet, smartphone) all day and all evening affects your stress hormone levels and your levels of DHEA, both of which are produced by your adrenal glands. We all know bringing our technology to bed is a quick way to remove all romance, but aside from the lack of attention to your partner, the light your technology emits actually messes with your hormones. The stress hormone cortisol increases, you can’t sleep as well, and over time this can cause chronically low sex drive. Keep tech out of the bedroom, try to turn all screens off early in the evening, and use a blue light filter if you just have to check your texts in the middle of the night. The same goes for your partner - he will experience low sex drive as the result of low testosterone if he over-uses technology.
- Your vibrator - if you turn to your vibrator every time you’re going solo, and even during sex with your partner, then you might be sabotaging your sex drive. Vibrators cause your body to bypass the plateau phase of orgasm. I know this is kind of the point - we use vibrators to get the job done fast! But that plateau phase is super important for all sorts of reasons. The longer the plateau before climax, the more nitric oxide and oxytocin your body produces. This has healing benefits for the whole endocrine system. It also increases blood flow to the whole pelvic area, setting you up for future orgasms and higher sex drive. When solo, go manual. Try out my tips for self-pleasure - you can incorporate these into sex with your partner too.
Always remember, that once you have the right information about how your body really works, you can start making health choices that finally start to work for you! You can do this - the science of your body is on your side!
to your FLO,
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