Do you feel overworked, over-scheduled, overstretched - but when it comes to sex, you’re over it?
Once you start seeing a hot bath and a good book as preferable to sex not just sometimes, but all the time, you know you’re losing your libido. Once your sex drive dips out of sight, lack of practice can make it disappear entirely. Stress is often the common denominator here - stress leads to imbalanced hormones, which prevents ovulation, which stops the natural libido spike, which leads to low libido, which can stress you out and rob you of important relaxation and health-boosting hormone release. Usually if you want to have sex, you’ll make time to have it - if you don’t want to have sex, then everything in your life that could be an obstacle becomes insurmountable.
If only there was a simple, quick-fix aphrodisiac to turn you on, right?
Although the so-called “female Viagra” was released earlier this year, women have decided not to take it - with prescription numbers staying low. That’s because we know it’s not as simple as taking a pill and that any kind of pill that wants to mess with our libido is going to have a lot of unwanted side effects. Women’s sexuality is complex, but that doesn’t mean a lost libido is gone forever. It just takes a little more time and care to bring back. You need to nourish your body for hormonal balance and juicy ovulation (when your body will be revved to reproduce, or at least go through the motions!). But you also need to nourish your soul so you feel more, not just sexually, but in every way.
The 3 best aphrodisiacs for women
- Spicy foods - we usually hear about the benefits of spicy foods to women who are impatiently awaiting the birth of their baby, but spicy foods are also great for the sex drive. That’s because they are vasodilators (they open up the veins and get the circulation going in your body). Anything with chilis in it will give you a natural high due on its capsaicin, which makes your heart beat a little faster. Also, research has shown that spicy foods increase testosterone levels in men and testosterone is just as important for a woman’s sex drive.
- Gingko Biloba - this supplement also increases circulation and the more blood that gets to your pelvic area, the more you’ll get aroused and the better orgasms you’ll have. We spend a lot of time sat at desks, in cars, on sofas these days and all that sitting can lead to stagnant sex drive, partly because we lose circulation in the places that most need it. It has been clinically tested on women suffering with low libido and proven to show increase in desire and enjoyment of sex.
- Prioritizing pleasure - I know you know that there’s no way you’re going from a super stressful day to wanting an orgasm that evening. Women just aren’t wired that way. If you’ve spent all day driving yourself to complete your to-do list, it’s going to be hard to shift gears to receive pleasure. The best way to prevent this part of your brain switching off completely is to incorporate non-sexual sources of pleasure into your everyday life, so that your pleasure receptors are boosted and primed rather than flagging or non-existent. It doesn’t take much, just a few small lifestyle hacks can make sure that when you want to be in the mood, you will be. Have fresh flowers on your desk; call your friend during your lunchbreak; put on a really great outfit that you love even if you’ll just be home all day...select little actions that put you in a good mood. These small victories for your enjoyment over the demands of the day will help boost your sex drive. For more ideas check out my inspiration Mama Gena and her new book "Pussy: A Reclamation".
Always remember, that once you have the right information about how your body really works, you can start making health choices that finally start to work for you! You can do this - the science of your body is on your side!
to your FLO,
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