Today, I’m not going to talk to you about setting intentions and honoring your past year’s accomplishments. By all means, do that – as I will be doing that, as well.
Instead, what I am going to do is share some lessons my daughter has taught me, which you can fuse with your own personal intentions for the new year.
As you know, I have spent the past 2 ½ months since the birth of my daughter, fully devoted to her care and mine (okay and a few emails here and there for FLO) 😉 I’ve noticed some things by observing her state that I want to share.
If you’re like me, you’ve been a seeker most of your life, looking for the Truth with a capital T – the truth of who you are and who you are meant to be, the truth about love and life and the sacred. I’ve had mystical experiences, lived and studied with a female zen master in India, I meditate, move my body, keep an altar at home, do rituals on big astrological transitions, and set my intentions monthly according to my cycle. Yet all of the spiritual teachers I’ve encountered are trying to help us get back to a place where we can simply BE ourselves with a lot less doing.
Being with my daughter, breastfeeding her every few hours, being fully present with her – I have finally found a meditation practice that works for me – breastfeeding! Totally empties my mind, I focus on my breathing, a sense of love and relaxation fills my body and I gaze hypnotically at my child. I’ve seen for myself how much LESS doing I have to do! Nothing has made me feel as grounded as becoming a mother. I also see just how our American cultural norm of going it alone, doing it yourself, pulling yourself up by your britches, is just not actually the nurturing vibration we are born into!
My daughter has this awareness going on in spades and so I want to share her 7 best practices for the good life with you so you can use them yourself! I’m totally taking her genius lead 😉
1 – Smile at everything and everyone when you first encounter it
She just is delighted by everything and everyone who comes across her visual field at first – she may dislike it after a few moments, she may cry to express her displeasure, but at first, she takes in the new experience as an offering of pleasure and smiles big and bright at it.
What if you met your day to day experiences with that kind of happy, joyful, open-to-being-delighted stance?
We all hear that in order to receive more abundance, we have to celebrate – this always felt confusing/unclear to me, like I had to throw a special party to celebrate what I had in order to make space to receive more. NOW I totally get it – it’s the smiling thing – the joyful heart – open and receptive energy – THAT is celebrating – try it 😉
2 – Cry out passionately for help when you feel alone
If she can’t see me, she doesn’t know that I’m there at this stage in her development. Like her, when we are trying to manifest, cocreate with the divine, even though we believe, we instantly lose faith when we can’t see what we want to create, or we feel like the only one suffering, or we feel scared what we want will never arrive. In addition, we as women often feel like we have to go it alone.
Take a cue from my daughter, cry out for help!
Love in the form of a person or a situation will come RUSHING in to hold you and reassure you.
3 – Get Your Boob On
I am exclusively breastfeeding my daughter – it is a blessing that I am able to and a privilege to do so. I feed her every 2 hours during the day, and then at night every 3-5 hours depending on her sleep schedule. She does not have to think about this. She opens her eyes, makes the cutest little lip smacking, panting, chirping sounds, and voila – my boob appears to fill her tummy up with what we call – ‘mommy nom noms” 😉 It’s totally awesome to watch her do her thing, and to watch my body do it’s miraculous food making thing!
Don’t measure, don’t count, don’t compare, don’t look for a different boob, don’t worry – just take in all that which is especially meant and created for you – everything in your life is nourishing you, feeding your soul.
You will not be deprived, you will have a seat at the table of the bounty of life always.
4 – Play with the toys in front of you
My baby does not have an agenda for the day. She in no particular order, eats, poops, sleeps, plays and repeats that continuously. If you think about it – we are all always on that same schedule 😉
The issue is the play part when we get bigger – we turn that into a pretty convoluted mess. We compartmentalize, we hustle, we extreme sport it, we try try try.
What if instead of agonizing over decisions about how we should spend our time, we just throw ourselves whole heartedly in to what unfolds before us?
Just as everything is orchestrated for my baby’s benefit – I put the right toys at the right time in front of her to play with – there is a greater force orchestrating on your behalf as well. Let that support just flow to you by planning less, and playing more.
5 – Grow And Change Every Day!
Every day since her birth, this little one has been growing and changing so rapidly. I just know in a blink of an eye she is going to be a toddler, and then have her driver’s license, and then be my age – whoosh! None of this stresses her out – her mandate to grow and change every day – to learn new things, to do something better than she did it the day before – it’s her own fun personal adventure.
She doesn’t cling to the known – she embraces the unknown pretty fearlessly. Perhaps we all are born with a huge tank of trust given to us, and for some reason, we forget how to access it as we get older. She just trusts herself, me, her environment, her life. She is not thinking about what if’s, she is just experiencing things and enjoying.
Trust yourself more, and accept the ride your on now, and enjoy the adventure of it!
6 – Be on your Own Schedule
She was born 9 months to the day of her conception – but not at the time preferred by the medical establishment. Our due date never felt right to me because I knew exactly when we created her – hello – FLO queen over here! 😉
I was instructed to induce labor, of course, which I declined. I was told my placenta might be deteriorating every week I waited to induce, that she might have less oxygen, that it might be more stressful for her.
I just felt like she had her own timeline. Labor started on our own at home just the way our bodies intended. She continues to march to the beat of her own drum.
Be on your own timeline. Don’t allow other people’s agendas and accomplishments impede your own journey’s rhythm.
7 – Rest Often
This baby loves to sleep and she needs it to grow and stay healthy – SO DO YOU!
I feel like this is enough said, but seriously, find a way to take something off of your plate.
We women just push ourselves until we break something with our health and hormones. I get it, now more than ever why we feel like we can do this. We are such powerful creatures capable of so much. I’m amazed at just how much I am capable of doing with the baby, with myself, with cooking, with work – truly inspiring. BUT – I need naps and lots of sleep to keep up with my little girl. So I’m just doing that too.
In order to be as active as you want to be, you need to rest like it’s your job too!
You’ll enjoy everything and be more present when you’ve given yourself some catnaps, proper night time sleeps, and lounge time with your favorite movie or book. Plus, pajamas are awesome!
Here’s a little mama blessing for you and for your 2015 from the love cocoon here:
All is Well.
Everything is conspiring for your highest good.
Only good things are coming to you now.
You are safe.
You are loved.
Wishing you so much health, blessings, and FLO in 2015,
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